National Eating Disorders Association

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Ms.ex
Working towards recovering

Hello! So just recently I have realized that I have an eating disorder. For the last year I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and my whole family became concerned and my fiancé’s family as well and it wasn’t until people outside of my family and friends started to say that they were concerned that I realized that I do have an eating disorder. I feel very nervous around food and try to eat the lowest amount of calories I can in a day. I’m not servely underweight but I’m close to underweight. I feel very bad and sad and I cry a lot. I want to feel good about food again and I feel like nobody in my family really knows how it feels for me. They are so supportive especially my parents but I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to that really gets it. I do have an appointment to see a therapist that specializes in eating disorders but I can’t get in until mid feb. just thought I would try to come on here where people have been through similar situations. I’m trying very hard to eat more and get back on track but it’s veey hard and I keep slipping up.

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Hi, ms.ex, welcome to the

Hi, ms.ex, welcome to the forums! We're so sorry to hear that you have come to the realization that you have an eating disorder. It must be really hard to feel like you can't open up about what's been going on! It sounds like you feel like those around you are supportive but you're not quite sure how to open up! Maybe this page on our website can help: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/sharing-concerns-about-your-eati.... Hope you can find the support you're looking for while you wait for your appointment with the eating disorders specialist! If you need any additional help, please feel free to reach out to the NEDA Helpline at (800) 931 -2237 (Monday - Thursday 9 AM EST - 9 PM EST Friday 9 AM EST - 5 PM EST) or chat with us (top right hand corner). Please also take a look at our community guidelines: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/forums/community-guidelines. 

iwanttolive
Ms.ex

Hello ad welcome to the forum. I am glad you found us. This is a supportive community and we support each other. I am sorry you are struggling and then have to wait for a few more weeks to see a therapist. There is a possibility that you are struggling with depression although I am not a professional and am not diagnosing you. That will be assessed by your therapist. It is good that you are able to talk with your parents. I think NEDA has a lot of great information. Another link they have is a parent tool kit. This can be found on their site and may be helpful. Where are you in school? Do you have friends and are you able to talk with them about how you are feeling? I want you to know I understand your desire to be healthy. It often takes a trained professional or more such as a dietician or medical doctor to make up a team that will help you in your recovery. Eating disorders are usually a form of coping for emotions that are difficult to deal with, or something that happened in our past or present and it is too painful to deal with that and the focus is put onto food and calories and numbers. The therapy will help you understand what is going on that is causing you to turn to maladaptive coping behaviors. I encourage you to be as honest as you can be once you have come to trust your therapist. Honesty will be one of the best things you can do for yourself in the recovery process. I wish you the best and hope to hear from you again.

iwanttolive

Ms.ex
Thank you

Sorry for such a late response back!! I really appreciate both of you answering!! It makes me feel so much better knowing there are people who are going through what I’m going through! I’m actually not in school anymore, I’m in my first year out of college and working full time! I do have some close friends but don’t feel completely comfortable talking to them about it! I feel that some friends and family don’t take me completely seriously. My parents have been great!! But again I don’t think they 100% understand me. It’s not their fault because I don’t 100% understand it either! I’m hoping once I go to the therapist things will start to look up!