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Taking my first step towards recovering from Bulimia

Hi Everyone, Today my boyfriend and I had a serious talk about the eating disorder that has been running and ruining my life. I have been struggling with binging/purging for a little over 2 years now. I was a victim of domestic violence and things seemed to spiral from there. Once me and my present boyfriend got together things seemed to get a lot better and then all of a sudden I started to notice myself having the constant urge to lose weight but not having time to go to the gym or eat healthy as I was in school at the time and working 2 jobs. As soon as I saw weight loss from binging/purging without having to do the work It seemed to overwhelm my life and now I cant eat a normal meal without the anxiety that follows it to find a bathroom and make sure no one notices. My boyfriend and I live together now which caused him to realize how serious this is. I am now only X pounds at 5'7 and havent been this skinny since middle/school or high school. I understand that this is a serious problem and I do really want to get help but my obsession with my appearance and weight are stopping me from completely giving in to recovery. Other than my Boyfriend who is urging me to get help and being extremely supportive my family and friends do not know. They constantly tell me that I look "good' or "in shape" and think that I am just exercising and eating right. I have been looking into finding a therapist that will work for me and am looking for suggestions as to what type of therapists or therapy will help? Or what my next steps should be to get a hold of these urges and work towards a more healthy lifestyle. Any advice and encouragement helps. Thank you in advance!

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Hi, selizabeth22, we're sorry to hear that you have been struggling. We're glad you came to the forums looking for a bit of support. We just wanted to provide you with this resource in case you wanted to talk to someone about what you have gone through --  RAINN: or (800) 656-4673. Part of your post was edited because a mention of specific number, please take a look at our community guidelines here: If you're interested in getting a listing of therapists in your area, you are welcome to contact the NEDA Helpline at 1-800-931-2237 (Monday-Thursday 9:00am-9:00pm, Friday 9:00am-5:00pm EST) or chat with us! 

Partner who can help

It sounds like you are struggling with what my partner is going through right now. I don't have very many answers as I do not suffer myself. I will say when looking in to therapy the thing that my wife's therapist had her do was partner with an regular doctor to give her some meds to control her anxiety. Recovery is rough but you will need to be honest about what you are doing to all involved. Make sure you involve your partner in the whole process as soon as you are comfortable with that. Your partner can be a great asset to you. They might even be helpful to you as you try and recover.


Hi Selizabeth22-

I'm so sorry that you are struggling. I totally understand the way ED consumes our life-- I just want you to know that you're not alone. I've been in the same boat, of wanting to be healthier but also being afraid to do what's needed out of fear of weight gain. I get that totally. I know for me, therapy has been crucial in my recovery journey-- and working through some of the underlying issues/emotions surrounding my behavior with food. The NEDA Helpline that has been posted is a good resource to get you plugged into some support. I'm glad that your boyfriend knows what's going on- that will be awesome to have him as you navigate recovery, as having a strong support network has been key for me as well.

I hope that you continue to post on the forums as this is a really valuable community of hope, support and encouragement! We are here for you! Hope to hear from you again soon.

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You might benefit from seeing a shrink

A Psychiatrist is the specialists Dr who can prescribe anti-anxiety rx's or whatever is needed to overcome these post meal urges.

An eval by a psychiatrist would be a good start. Good luck and hope you find all the support out there in your community that you need.

Seeking help after 30 years of bulimia

Hi everyone.I'm 54 and have decided to really pursue help with my eating disorder that I have kept hidden for 30 year., I feel it is time to get help so that it doesn't impact one of the best things that has happened to me; my relationship with my boyfriend. Over the past year, I have lost nearly X pounds with diet and exercise and the bulimia tucked in there as well from time to time. I'm really afraid of gaining the weight back as that has been my history of losing and gaining it back. So, the bulimia had increased the past 2 weeks and my obsession with my weight has increased as well. My big issue is having the courage to talk with my boyfriend about my eating disorder and that I'm going to get help. I'm so afraid of losing him and I know that if he truly loves and accepts me, he will be there for me. How have others dealt with this issue and in talking with loved ones about the eating disorder? I'm also wondering if there is anyone my age dealing with an eating disorder.


Hi I just wanted to say that you are doing the right thing!!!! And I also wanted to reach out to amyj117....I’m about to turn 40 and have struggled with Bulimia for over 20 years.

The sooner you get help the better :-)

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