National Eating Disorders Association

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Self Care

My apologies - I intended to post this question as part of my last post. One of the most difficult things that I have struggled with as a partner of someone with an eating disorder is carving out a support system for myself and practicing self-care. It can be so difficult to make space for my own feelings when I'm so concerned about my girlfriend's feelings. Because of this, I've taken the steps of seeking out therapy for myself, but even with that, it can still be really hard to create that space for myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to practice good self care while balancing the needs of my partner? I guess what I'm getting at is that it's so hard to strike a balance between my needs and my partner's needs on a daily basis. For example: having a ridiculously stressful day at work and feeling like I have to swallow those feelings when I get home because my partner's having a hard time with her eating disorder that day or just feeling completely overwhelmed about the situation, but not wanting to make her feel badly about it.

So glad you know the importance of self care

Hi Efarquha,

Thanks for bringing up this very important topic. Often times when one is caring for a loved one, he or she neglects themselves in the process. It's very easy to get consumed with the care of another. I am so happy to know that you realize self-care is critical. It's so important that you have support as well.

Therapy for yourself is a great place to start. Have you ever considered a support group as well? Support groups are a great place to connect with others going through your same situation, and struggling with these same issues as well. It's always good to know you are not alone, but also have a place to vent about your bad day without worry.

Here is a link to find one in your area:
- Once on the page, click on the Find a Treatment Referral, Support Group, or Research Study link and you'll be on your way.

Hope this helps! And I commend you on taking care of yourself during this challenging time!

Thank you

I appreciate your response - I have utilized a NEDA support group in the past and have found it incredibly helpful. Self-care is essential, and I'm always interested to hear how other partners strike that balance. Thank you.