National Eating Disorders Association

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London1621
Why is this happening?

I don't understand why this is happening again, another person has passed away. I don't know why so many terrible things are happening in my life. I don't want to give into the feeling to binge eating because I'm hurting so much. Why can't bad things never happen to anyone.

lovetowrite81
London1621

Hi London1621, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are experiencing right now. I just want you to know that you're not alone-- that's the big questions we ask, 'Why is this happening to me?' We just have to recognize that this world is a broken, messy place & comes with so much struggle, but also so much beauty. I hope that you can hold onto hope in this time- that after sorrow comes joy, that there is light in the darkness you feel right now <3 We are here for you in any way you want to process all of these emotions.

London1621
Thank you

Ok and thank you.

London1621
How to deal with this?

So I don't want to be upset or hurt by what happened because I then want to binge eat. So I'm pretending like this didn't happen, because I don't want to get that feeling to binge eat or be sad, I don't like how it makes me feel.

lovetowrite81
London1621

I am sorry you are going through this. So true-- feeling upset, hurt, or distressed is incredibly uncomfortable. It's a space we don't enjoy being in. But ultimately it's part of life and we need to learn to be okay in that space of overwhelming emotions. When our first instinct is to run to binge eating or some other form of escape. This is an opportunity for you to let yourself feel these emotions & challenge yourself to sit in them. You have been doing so well with finding ways to cope in the midst of the hurt and pain. I encourage you to keep up the wonderful work with that! To do whatever you need to in order to process the emotions in a healthy way. It's so much easier to avoid and push down our emotions, with food- but there IS freedom from this cycle. You're amazing.

Keep us posted on how you are doing <3

iwanttolive
London1621

Hi. I am really sorry for your suffering but i have tp agree with lovetowrite81. It seems as if pretenting the death of friends or loved ones would make it less painful but unfortunately it is like trying to hold a ball under water. It takes a lot of energy and vigilance to keep that ball under and it is distracting. As painful as life can get, I believe the best way to cope and grow and recover is to face the pain. You may not be able to face it head on all at the same time but ignoring pain won't allow healing.
You have been so well. I am not sure, and hope you don't mind my asking but where does God/ Jesus fit into your recovery. For me, I wouldn't be here. I give Him the credit and praise for helping me in my journey and into recovery. He wants to help you too.
I pass no judgement on you. I think you are doing a great job as life keeps throwing arrows at you. You can do this. Just be real, be yourself stay honest and do your best. With care, iwanttolive

London1621
Thank you

Ok for what you are saying. And thank you.

London1621
Hi iwanttolive

I think it's great that you have God/Jesus help you. I believed in him before, then something terrible happened 3 years ago and I pushed myself away and I just started believing in him again about four months ago. I haven't asked him to help me with binge eating. I'm not sure why.

lovetowrite81
London1621

I think it's awesome that you are coming back to God. He has never strayed from you even when you have pushed away from him- and wants to be involved in every aspect of your life. I encourage you to lean into Him in this battle with binge eating. He brings transformation, freedom, and breaks chains. I never would have thought I could escape the vicious cycle of binge eating, but look back now on three years without behaviors, and I praise God for doing what I never could on my own. How are you feeling currently about recently turning back to God and where you're at with your faith?

Just wanted to let you know that we are here for support <3