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What should i do?

My friend and I are both ballet dancers. Recently, i've noticed her constantly looking at herself in the mirror, like she's "evaluating" herself, and she always has a sad expression on her face. In addition, she hasn't been eating lunch at school and doesn't eat breakfast either. I always bring extra food to ballet with me (we carpool together) and try to share it with her, but lately, she hasn't even been eating that. She's constantly making comments to me about how she's too fat, but in reality she's already extremely skinny. She has developed a very pessimistic attitude towards things and is constantly telling me about something new that she "ages" or "disagrees" with. I'm very worried about her, and I'm almost positive she has anorexia. I've told my mom, and she tells me to keep doing what I'm doing and try to increase her self confidence, but I think she's past my help and needs professional help. Her mom knows she doesn't eat very much, but I don't think she knows how serious it is. t don't know what to do. Should I talk to my friend about it? Should I tell her mom more? Please share advice! this is the only thing I've been able to think about for days. I know that eating disorders can be life threatening, and I'm terrified that her life is in my hands. What do i do for her?


The best thing you can do in this situation is to talk to her about it. One of two things will happen, she will either deny it, blame it on something else, or she will tell you she has been struggling. I would share with her your concerns, and ask her to talk to her mother or doctor about it.

This is also a great link giving some ideas on how to approach the subject, because it can get a little touchy.
I wish you and your friend the best.

The best thing to give her is your support
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