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californiagirl
Weighing

Hi Everyone,

Thanks in advance for reading my post. I just discovered this forum and I'm hopeful I'll be able to find some answers to some questions of mine...

I'm looking for some more answers/opinions about weighing myself. Here's a little background info about me: I have always exhibited tendencies of an eating disorder, even from a very young age. In terms of susceptibility, I'm a prime target, being very involved in ballet, even dancing professionally, and being a perfectionist/over-achiever in school. However, I never felt as out control as I did when I moved away from my family to start my career at age 22 (after getting two college degrees, and graduating with honors), which left me in a strange city, with little support, and the overwhelming drive to "succeed." My eating disorder took over for about eight months until I got therapy, which helped immensely, but also made me realize I was pursing a dream and career that I didn't really want at all, which was really at the root of my obsession with food and weight loss.

Anyway, I've since abandoned that career path and moved back home with my family. I'm dealing with all kinds of thoughts about success, failure, happiness, love, career, self-acceptance, everything. I've mostly been able to let go of all of my destructive eating/ exercising behaviors. All of them, except weighing myself.

I still weigh myself even though I am now at a very healthy weight for my height, and almost back to my former, pre-eating disorder weight. I am still happier on days when I weigh a little less than usual, and still pretty furious if my weight spikes unexpectedly. This back and forth drives me crazy, and I want nothing else than to stop this obsession, and stop basing my self-worth on the number on the scale.

I'm hoping I can get some advice on how to stop weighing myself. I've tried to stop for a few days but I always feel like if I don't know my number, my weight will sneak up without me knowing. I always feel better when I know how much I weigh, even if it's higher than I want, than not knowing altogether.

I've tried getting rid of the scale but I just buy another. It's gotten a little worse recently, and now I'm weighing myself multiple times a day.

Any advice on how to stop this would be extremely appreciated.

Thank you, god bless.

-Californiagirl

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Hang in there!

Dear Californiagirl -

First of all, I want to commend you for coming to us for help. I can tell how much you are struggling with the obsession of the scale and I am proud of you for talking about it!

You mentioned that you have moved back home with your family - do any of them know what is going on? If so, it may be helpful to enlist someone in your household to help you when you have the strong desire to weigh yourself. However, even if you do have someone at home, talking to a professional may be your best bet. It sounds like it was really helpful when you went before. Also, support groups are a great place to talk about this. You will find that you are not alone in struggling with an ED behavior in recovery! And you may learn of some coping mechanisms that have worked for others who have dealt with this exact same issue. Ups and downs are a normal part of recovery. As frustrating as that may be, you CAN get through this!

To find a treatment referral in your area, you can call NEDA at 1-800-931-2237 or go to our website, www.nationaleatingdisorders.org, and click on the Find Help and Support tab and then Treatment. For support groups, click on Support Groups under the Find Help and Support tab.

We have faith that you can tackle this! You have already made the hard step of reaching out and talking about it and I am so proud of you for doing so. Keep us updated on your recovery process and stay strong!!

Good luck,
Erin
NEDA Volunteer

simone
You have done such a brave

You have done such a brave thing deciding that you must do something about your eating disorder. Many people don't have the courage to do that so well done.
As for the habit of weighing yourself, visit my blog:
www.simonemurcutt.blogspot.com
I address just how numbers are unimportant and how loving yourself goes way beyond that.
Just know that you are not alone and many people, including myself, struggle with body image and weight as well

xx

beluu
I know exactly how you feel

Dear Californiagirl,
I've been in recovery for a little over a year now and until some months ago i struggled with the same obsession. I first started weighting myself in the morning and before going to bed but I quickly ended up doing it almost every moment possible. There was a time when I could weight myself over ten o fifteen times a day. Every single time I needed to use the toilet or wash my hands or shower or whatever I needed to go to the bathroom to I would use the scale. I even use it every time before eating and immediately after I ate. I talk it in therapy and knew this wasn't helping and was truly driving me crazy. I knew it didn't make sense to use it so many times since the scale can show you a million different weights in the same day depending on the time of the day you use it and comparing them is just pointless. But I just couldn't stop. I NEEDED to know.
Finally, my father decided to take it away from my house. We just don't have a scale anymore. We never talked about it and I don't know if they truly find out what I was doing or just thought it was best not to have it. I went completely mad, i wanted to scream and was so angry at them. I thought they were harming me, not helping me, but of course I wouldn't tell them a single thing. However, after I talked with my therapist about it and as time went by I was truly thankful they did so.
I still weight myself when I am at a friends house and I see a scale, and feel really tempted to do it at drugstores (here in Argentina almost every drugstore has a scale), but overall it feels so much better now that I'm not thinking 24/7 about it.
I know it's hard, but as most things in recovery in the long term you will actually feel better. I would recommend talking to your parents about it and asking if they could take it out for good.
Wish you the best on this journey and hope you can get over this.
Belu