National Eating Disorders Association

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hello im new to the forums but unfortunately not so new to eating disorders. I have been bulimic since i was roughly 17 and now I have just turned 25. I have recently moved to the states and believe the life change may have been the reason my bulimic tendancies have resurfaced. throught the suggestion of my room mate i decided to attend a support groups last monday. I made it to the venue but could not bring myself to go in. if i cant tell my own family and friends what im going through how can i tell strangers? I am just wondering has anybody attened a support group and benefited from the experience? in particular people like me who were cautious of the experience? maybe peoples feedback could give me the push i need to go. Thanks in advance

Hello! Welcome!

Hi there!

Thank you so much for trusting these forums with your thoughts! I hope I can be of some support to you!

I too suffered from an ED so I know and can relate to the potential shame you are feeling surrounding it. But, please remember that you never asked for this ED, in fact it is a disease and thus we share in no blame for its occurrence. I can also see too how hard it is to still talk about it...

I have been in many support groups and they have always been a positive experience! However, not everyone benefits from this type of therapy. Have you considered seeing a therapist individually? Sometimes it is easier have a personal coach to see you through the emotional challenges of beginning recovery. If you aren't sure where to go to see a specialist, if you call the NEDA Helpline at 1-800-931-2237, then they can help!!

Also, I am not sure how you came across this support group, but NEDA also has this link to help you find some in your area!

Please let me know if there is anything else I can help with! Hope you're well!!

Thanks for the reply! i have

Thanks for the reply! i have considered seeing a therapist, in fact i was seeing one while at university and it worked very well for me. the issue i now face is that i do not have health insurance and the sliding scale/low cost individual sessions i have researched are too expensive for my income. i came across support groups as a free help source. i do feel at a loss because i do feel that i will benefit more from individual help than group. maybe i should try it once and decied if it is for me, next time ill hopefully make it through the door. Thank you for your help. If you had any feedback on topics discussed and a general description of what typicall goes on at the groups id really appreciate it.

Hey charliebrown,

The fact that you even made it to a support group is huge! You may have not made it inside but the fact that you made a decision to get better is a great step towards recovery.

Support groups are a great way to share your struggles because it's a place where you can talk about your difficulties and be surrounded by people who are experiencing similar problems. I was totally against going to a support group. My thought was, "Why would I want to go to a place filled with strangers to tell them my struggles?!" But let me tell you, it was one of the most eye opening experiences of my life. I walked in with my guard completely up. I refused to tell my story because I just wanted to be there to tell others, "See, I'm not as bad as them." Well 10 minutes into the session and I broke down crying. The people that attend these support groups know what you're going through. Some may be further into recovery than others, but no matter what, they want to see you get better because they know what it's like to hit rock bottom.

If you don't yet feel comfortable seeing a therapist, then I definitely recommend going to a support group. Hopefully from those sessions, you will be more open to talking about it with your family and friends.

Just know that this forum is always here for you as well as the NEDA hotline. We want nothing more than to see you recover so you can live a happy and healthy life.

Stay strong and know that you are worth recovery!


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