National Eating Disorders Association

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CMW.LCAS
Scared

Hi, there. I am the parent of a daughter ( now 28) who long suffered with ED. Now, I am a therapist who helps families and individuals with EDs. And my daughter seems to be facing a relapse ( or a rough patch) as she calls it. We live near one another but rarely see one another and I can feel her becoming more distant from me. I am struggling with worry and with the knowledge that I have done all I can do over the years. She is at a place where she wants to be self sufficient, and I need to honor that. But I carry with me this uneasiness all the time. Her battle was a 10 year battle, and I am so afraid she will slide back into the dark hole that is the eating disorder.

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Hi CMW.LCAS.

Hi CMW.LCAS.
I'm sure there's not much I can say that you don't already know in better detail than I do.
That being said, have you considered directing your daughter toward some of the resources that are available on the NEDA website? I'll list some of the links that I think my be relevant at the bottom of my post.
I'd also like to ask whether or not you've considered reaching out to you daughter. Perhaps you could schedule an outing with her in which you can discuss your feelings.
Are there any significant people in her life that you could reach out to? Maybe she has a partner or a friend who you could confer with/exchange notes with.
I hope some of that helps.
Here are those links that I mentioned:
http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/stories-of-hope
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/blog/self-care-master-post
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/slips-lapses-and-relapses
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/what-should-i-say (for you)

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2Joy2love
CMW.LCAS

Hi CMW.LCAS,
The love you have for your daughter is evident. It is so hard to see someone you love struggle.
Your post has really touched me. My heart aches for you and your daughter. I hope that she can find the help she needs. Please also take care of yourself. With the worry of your daughter and a job that is stressful (thank you so much for helping those struggling with ED and their families, I can only imagine how stressful that is but life altering for those you are helping). Is there someone you can talk to and things you can do to keep yourself healthy emotionally and physically? For me it helps to find moments of joy each day. You are not alone.
2joy2love