National Eating Disorders Association

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2Joy2love
rough time

My daughter has been doing so well overall. Yet last 4 days have been so hard. There is even talk about getting her into a hospital for her own safety. It is so hard to see her suffer and to know exactly what is going on and what to do. She has hit a real rough patch. I tell her how much I care about her and she said she doesn't want me to care. She is so afraid of losing people she cares about (we adopted her from foster care when she was 11). I told her that I will always care about her, she can't stop me. I think she is trying to force me away, because she is so afraid that I will leave her eventually, so she thinks it would hurt less now.
She just wants the pain to go away. There is a lot of pain from her past, because of others choices. She wants it fixed, she just wants the pain to go away and she is now realizing that she has to be the one to deal with the choices of others and how their choices affect her, She has to do the hard work and to find healing. She wants it to happen quickly, but she is realizing that it does not happen that way. She is mad, afraid overwhelmed, depressed, and she is being stubborn. I feel that I am in a mine field and trying to not step on hidden mines, yet she keeps moving the mines. No matter what I do she gets angry, she feels that everything I do is wrong. I do know though that when I share my heart with her and tell her how much I care about her, that I see a bit of softening in her. Two of her brothers have joked around with her tonight, which helps so much. It was a moment of joy for me to hear her joke back with them. Her younger brother (age 12) was so sweet to her. He read her a scripture and told her how he was worried about her and to know that God was there for her and He would help her. This softened her heart also.
It has been a very rough night. We also have concern for another child, that is struggling through some hard times. It all just came to a head tonight. This is good for me to be able to share my thoughts and concerns.
2joy2love

2Joy2love
birdie22

Thank you so much for your encouragement and your prayers. I was guided in what to do and given the strength to do it. This morning I felt I was drowning. I have a lot going on, not just with my daughter. Now, I just feel at peace. Not everything is solved, but I know that I am not alone. I have so many people praying for us, I have wonderful family and friends, I have great doctors, and most importantly I have My Heavenly Father watching out for us.
I am so glad to ear that you were not injured too much. It sounds like a bad accident. I am so glad that it helped you want to live more. I am praying for you
2joy2love

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2Joy2love
getting better

My daughter had a much better day yesterday, and today she is still improving. We went and saw her councilor today and it was a great session. I went in with them and mainly listened. She opened up and was willing to work with the councilor. We also saw her dietician today, and my daughter did great work in there as well. My daughter helped make a plan for what should be in place for her safety and what privileges she could have and what was best to hold off on until she was in a better place emotionally. I am so proud of her for working on healthier choices and being so involved in the process of getting back to where she needs to be. we had decided to keep her home instead of putting her in a hospital and I know that for now it is the best for her. I also know that if she makes choices that endanger her health and life I will need to be prepared to get her into a hospital.
2joy2love

lovetowrite81
2Joy2Love

Hi 2Joy2Love,

Just wanted to follow up and see how your daughter has been doing? I am glad that she seems willing to work with her counselor as well as her dietitian!

I have been praying for ya'll- please keep us posted <3

-Lovetowrite81

2Joy2love
update

Thank you so much for asking how she is and for praying for us. I know that prayers are very powerful.
My daughter is doing so well. I am amazed at how well she is doing. We saw her doctor yesterday and she was also so happy to see how she was doing.
She is making healthy choices. She is maintaining her weight, not self harming and she is hanging out with her friends. She jokes around and smiles.
2joy2love

GlennW
Sounds like,things are improving

Glad that things are looking up. I hope,she is getting help in coping with past trauma. It seems that many with ED have past trauma and it seems to be a key component. Hoping for the best!

lovetowrite81
2joy2Love

Hi 2Joy2Love,

I am so glad that she has been doing so well!!! That is super encouraging to hear. Hopefully the progress only continues!

Please keep us posted <3

-Lovetowrite81