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rea_rea
My Parents Are Getting Divorced

That's it. And it sucks. And I don't want to relapse.

I know I have a good support system here in college and I feel stronger now, but also I know that literally every time in my past when something big and bad happened I ran to ED or self harm. I'm trying to work through the emotions of it all without relying on ED as something that'll be a constant in my life while everything else is so chaotic - if that makes sense. Idk. A lot just hurts right now.

lovetowrite81
Rea_rea

Hi Rea_Rea- I'm so sorry to hear that about your parents. You must be experiencing such a complex array of emotions right now. I can totally understand the fear of relapse. The good news is that you seem aware of your tendencies to turn to ED as a way to cope in difficult times. With that awareness you can do what you can to safeguard against falling into relapse. I'm glad to hear that you feel supported while at college. What other coping strategies have you been able to put in place recently? Are you working with a therapist at school? I encourage you to seek out all you can to find some sort of stability in the chaos-- don't be afraid to ask for extra support, I always recommend journaling as a way to work through overwhelming emotions, and feel free to post on here as much as you need to. Just know that you are not alone and we are here for you. <3 Hope to hear from you again soon.

rea_rea
lovetowrite81

Thank you,
I guess I'm still trying to figure out how to safeguard against relapse. I'm not really sure what coping strategies I have- I do like to journal so I have that. And I've been trying to surround myself with people as much as possible because when I'm alone I get angry or sad and that's not good. Today I didn't eat a meal until 11 o clock at night bc I just wanted to control I think- maybe mixed with being sad and having no appetite I think. You were right- it is a complex array of overwhelming emotions. I don't see a therapist though- they're not the best at my school and I can't really afford it, but I talk to my college pastor. Thanks again <3

lovetowrite81
Rea_Rea

Definitely. It is overwhelming & a lot happening. Know that you're doing the best you can. All we can do is take it one day at a time, one hour at a time, one moment at a time <3 That's awesome that you like to journal- I would definitely recommend doing that to process the emotions. I know that has helped me a lot in my recovery. And I'm glad that you have supportive people in your life like your pastor. ED loves to drive us into isolation so I think it's great you are trying to be intentional about surrounding yourself with others. Know that we are always here to listen. Definitely keep us posted <3

London1621
Hugs

Hi, I'm sorry about this and you are having a hard time. And I hope that you will be ok soon. Lots of Hugs.

DannyGShields
Sorry to hear about your

Sorry to hear about your parents. But it is perfectly fine to be sad and take time to be normal. My cousin also went through this and then later required the counseling sessions from our family lawyer to cope up with his parents divorce.

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rea_rea
thanks guys

thanks.. unfortunately I haven't been doing too great lately.

lovetowrite81
Rea_Rea

Hi Rea_Rea,
Just wanted to say hello & check in. I'm sorry you are going through a hard time. Wanted to let you know I have been praying for you and thinking of you. Know that you are never alone and we are here for you! <3

rach898
rea_rea

Hi rea_rea! I'm so sorry to hear about your parents and I want to make sure you are doing okay!! What is going on? Have you talked to anyone recently about how you are feeling? If you need someone to talk to, volunteers are available on the Helpline (1-800- 931-2237) M-Th 9am-9pm and F 9am-5pm. And please keep writing on the forums-- we are all here for you. I hope you start feeling better soon :)