National Eating Disorders Association

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RubyDuby193
I stuffed myself

I keep eating and eating. I can't stop sometimes. I need advice.

eghall
You CAN do this

Hi RubyDuby193 -

I'm so glad you come on here to talk when you need help. That's what these forums are for! The fight for control over our eating disorders can be a tough one. I know you mentioned in a previous post that you aren't comfortable talking with any loved ones about what you are going through. This is a hard fight to try to win on your own, so I am glad you come on here to talk.

It's important to really listen to your body when it comes to refueling and try to remember that it's your eating disorder dictating your actions. And you are smarter and stronger than your eating disorder! Maybe you can try to really tune in to what you are eating - enjoying the taste, smells and textures of the meal. Here are some helpful tips: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/listen-your-body
http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/life-during-recovery-questions-as...

I really hope this helps! The helpline is available M-F 9a-5p, so next time you are feeling the temptations of your eating disorder, maybe you can give the helpline a call and talk through it.

RubyDuby193
Thanks for the links and

Thanks for the links and thanks for responding. And I really can't help overeating when it comes to sweets. Like today my dad bought cupcakes for us and i couldn't stop myself. Now I feel really fat and depressed. I tried stopping by I couldn't.

eghall
That's your eating disorder talking

Hi RubyDuby193 -

That is your eating disorder talking. You deserve to enjoy some sweets. Your body deserves some compassion. The negative thoughts are coming from your eating disorder. That feeling of 'control' you get from obeying your disorder is a false sense of control. Have you thought any more about talking with someone? It sounds like you are struggling and I feel you could really benefit from professional help. I am concerned about you trying to navigate this all by yourself.

RubyDuby193
Thanks. I know it's my ED

Thanks. I know it's my ED tlaking but I can't help but listen to it. Who should I talk to?? I'm doing this on my own because I don't want my loved ones to find out.

eghall
People to talk to

I understand your fear of telling your loved ones. I'm just curious - are you afraid they will be mad, afraid of upsetting them or afraid they won't understand?

Do you have a trusted friend you could turn to? Or what about a school counselor or nurse? Or even an adult you trust, like a friend's parent that knows you well.

Thoughts on this?

RubyDuby193
I'm afraid that they will

I'm afraid that they will never see me as the same person or that they will treat me differently.

eghall
I understand it's scary

I understand your fear. I had the same one when I first had the conversation with loved ones. Although it's a scary first step, it's a very important one. You never know - they could surprise you and be really supportive! The truth is we don't know how our loved ones will react until we actually have the conversation. Here is an idea - go to this link and print up some information regarding eating disorders that personally speaks to you and how you feel: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/general-information

Then maybe you can sit down with someone you trust and give them the information you printed and start the conversation from there. That way, the trusted individual has some information to relate to what you are going through and you have some written words to explain how you feel.

How does that sound?

RubyDuby193
Thats sounds easy but I'm

Thats sounds easy but I'm still way too scared to tell anyone. I'll look into it but theres no guarantee I'll actually do it. I'm sorry.

xoxoa
I feel the same way RubyDuby.

I feel the same way RubyDuby... I'm scared to tell my loved ones because I know they will look at me differently...My family has very high expectations from me....I feel like if I tell them I am bulimic...they wont even talk to me let alone support me... I want to get better but without their help..I wonder if there's any way that is possible

LegacyofLove
Feeling the same way!

xoxoa,

First of all, thanks for loving yourself enough to reach out through this wonderful forum. I'm proud that you have the desire to get better. Since you currently don't feel comfortable sharing this with your family for fear of their response, I would strongly encourage you to check out the links below that I shared with RubyDuby193, whom is dealing with similar feelings. There's also the incredibly supportive and confidential NEDA Helpline #1.800.931.2237 (M-F 9:00am-5:00pm EST). They're not only committed to listening to your personal thoughts and concerns, but are a great point of contact for directing you to a variety of resources specific to your needs.

Just know you are not alone, and you deserve an ED-free life.

Hope to hear about your great days too, which will also serve to be a wonderful source of inspiration to others, like me!

Well wishes!

cat1t
Me too. So glad I found the

Me too. So glad I found the place.

RubyDuby193
Yea, we can do this together.

Yea, we can do this together.

eghall
No need to apologize!

No need to apologize! We are here to help you in any way we can, so if at least talking on the forum helps, that's what's important :) Just know that any suggestions are for your own best interest and we want to see you happy and healthy.

RubyDuby193
Yea, right now talking in the

Yea, right now talking in the forums is helping. I know you said liste to your body and I tried but today I did it agian. I kept stuffing food in my mouth.

LegacyofLove
Forum Support

RubyDuby193,

I'm so glad this forum is helping you! Since it appears you are not quite ready to share your struggle with a friend,family member or healthcare professional, I would at least strongly encourage you to contact the NEDA Helpline #1.800.931.2237. It's completely confidential and they are a tremendous resource to help you through this, so you are not alone.

I believe in you. Just know that YOU are special and that is not determined by your weight. I hope you reach out to NEDA's incredibly helpful Helpline!

You're not alone, we're here for you!

LegacyofLove
20 Ways To Love Your Body!

RubyDuby193,

I've found this NEDA link http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/20-ways-love-your-body incredibly helpful and thought of you and wanted to share in an effort to help.

Let me know what you think?

RubyDuby193
Thanks that was helpful. And

Thanks that was helpful. And thanks fro your support I'm trying everyday to fight this.

LegacyofLove
You're Welcome!

RubyDuby193,

I'm glad you found the info helpful. We're all here to support one another. Believe in yourself ~ because I do! You can beat this. One day at a time!

Well wishes!

RubyDuby193
Yes. Some days are good,

Yes. Some days are good, other days are bad and other days are really bad but some days are really good. I wish all days could be good. I think I need something to do instead of sitting around the house where the temptations are even more intense. Got any suggestions?

eghall
Good question!

I love that you are asking that question because it's a really good one that many people ask. Some things that have worked for me are taking a walk, journaling, calling a friend. I know these sound simple but they can help!

RubyDuby193
Hmm thanks, but do you any

Hmm thanks, but do you any other ideas?

eghall
Another source

Think of some things you enjoy doing that bring you a sense of calm. Those are the activities that may help you out in the tough moments. I think you should call the Helpline and talk to a live person about this. Having a live, on-going conversation may help get the creative juices flowing on what will help when you need distractions. What are you thoughts on that?

1-800-931-2237, M-F 9am-5pm EST

What activities do you enjoy that you think would help you out?

RubyDuby193
hmmm. I like to draw, watch

hmmm. I like to draw, watch movies and surf the internet but sometimes that doesnt distract me enough. I tried talking on the helpline but I freaked out and ended the conversation. This is strange but I have a fear of talking to counselors. Last year when I was having problems I tried talking to the school counselor but I freaked out and couldn't do it. I don't know why.

eghall
It's understandable

That fear is completely understandable and absolutely normal! It's not a comfortable first step for most. Just try to remember they are there to help you, in a no-judgement, safe zone.

RubyDuby193
Yea, I guess I need time to

Yea, I guess I need time to warm up to a person. Like I'm starting to warm up to you. I guess I just need time.

eghall
I'm glad you are starting to

I'm glad you are starting to feel comfortable with me. I am here for you, to help and support you. I've been where you are so just know that I understand. I am here to help you. Talk to me anytime :)

RubyDuby193
Thanks for the support! I'll

Thanks for the support! I'll remember you said that.