National Eating Disorders Association

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caringbf1
i made a slip over text

we were talking about how i wanna do everything i can to help her and i acccidentlaly said it didnt seem like she ws tryng to ge tout of a slump shes been in, because sometimes her texts are short dismissive texts that seem like she doenst think she can do it, and i jsut get emotional about them because i know she has it in her to get out of a slump and eventually beat this, if not make it less impactful

i wanna do all i can to help her and i also need her to know that the text sent wasnt how i meant how, how should i apolgize so she gets where im coming from, and then how should i continue in working to help make progress together with her

PianoGirl
Hey caringbf1,

Hey caringbf1,

It sounds like you really care for and support your girlfriend. One great resource that you might find worth looking into is the NEDA Navigators - they're trained volunteers who can give guidance and support to those who are close to someone suffering from an eating disorder. Here is the link: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/neda-navigators

Keep believing in and supporting your girlfriend - having someone caring and supportive to talk to makes a big difference! Also, take care of yourself, too - this is not an easy thing to go through! The forum is always here if you need some encouragement and support.

banannaomi
Hey, love!

Glad you posted here. My personal advice would be to explain yourself as clearly and compassionately (and honestly) as you can, as you have done here on this forum. And then, for future situations where you are supporting her, to simply ask, "How can I help?" In my experience supporting friends with mental health issues, and with receiving support for mine, I've found that we each know how to best support ourselves... And if she isn't quite sure how to answer that question yet, it will get her thinking at least a little more positively, and through her recovery she'll eventually discover the ways in which each person in her life can best support her. And not only that, but these words can offer a healthy feeling of control to the person struggling, which is wonderful, because it's important that we're each the most powerful in our own recoveries.

I hope this advice has made some sense and offered some aid to you! Don't be afraid to reach out to the NEDA Helpline - 1.800.931.2237, M-T 9am-9pm, F 9am-5pm (EST) to speak with a trained volunteer. They can also help you with some rough times in your girlfriend's recovery, as well as provide local resources for either of you.

Wishing you blessings as you two figure this out. <3
Anna Naomi