National Eating Disorders Association

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I had no idea, Don't know what to do! :(

Just found out My girl friend (who will be the first girl I will marry, and I would never do marriage, so she is very special,)

A little background:

My girl friend is a heavyset (but not morbidly huge, she has the weight in all the right places) 20 y/o african american. She doesn't have diabetes or any such illness. She went blind as a teenager but she's pretty healthy. Anyways we met through a friend because she knows I only date heavy set black girls. What was supposed to be a night turned into a beautiful relationship. So I know a bit about medicine, I was going to be a doctor then changed my mind. I noticed she was stressed and having trouble eating. She had all the classic symptoms of hypoglycemia or diabetes. So she agreed to go to my doctor and rule out those diseases. Then yesterday she was very confused and she was could speak. I tried to take her sugar (I learned in school and my friend has a tester), she wouldn't let me but agreed to drink soda then eat some noodles. As I suspected her sugar was very low turns out she has been eating very little over the last few days. She was back to normal in about 20 min. She once brought up the fact that she struggled with disordered eating in high school and they forced her into the hospital to treat the physiological symptoms. Being a foster home kid I thought it was an acute incident due to living situation, perhaps not. Besides her health and well being I am concerned about how this could affect our marriage.

I know, it must be hard

I know, it must be hard watching the girl that you love struggle with disordered eating. It seems like your girlfriend is still struggling and not ready to talk about her eating or seek help. It is important that you are caring and supportive and try to reach out to her about her eating. I know you want to be able to help her, but unfortunately, all you can really do is let her know that you are there for her and you love and support her. Although it is great that you have a background in medicine and want to make sure she is healthy, you are her boyfriend, not her doctor and it is important that she feels comfortable with you and feels like you are there to help and support her.

The NEDA helpline (800-931-2237, M-Th, 9am-9pm, F, 9am-9pm, can help provide you with resources and treatment referrals for your girlfriend.

Also, can provide you with more information on how you can help your girlfriend, along with providing you with information on how to deal with the situation.

As hard as it is to watch your girlfriend go through this, at the end of the day, it is ultimately her choice to get help and work toward recovery. But it is also important that you have someone to talk to about how you are feeling about all of this.

Thank you for reaching out to the forum and I hope you find this and the links helpful!

thank you!

thank you!