National Eating Disorders Association

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ctracy
hard day

Hi there
I'm new to this and not really sure where to start. Today was a really bad day for me though. Binging and purging on and off for most of the day... I have been struggling for a few years now. I have hit another bottom it seems and am going wanting to seek professional help. I find though that when I am down and my eating habits feel quite crippling, it is hard for me to see myself working or doing normal things when I am so preoccupied with my weight and eating habits. When people are recovering, is it okay to maybe take time out of commitments in order to get better? Or is it recommended that people keep going with their every day life? It's hard for me to picture myself getting up tomorrow and going to work after the terrible day I had today and feeling so embarrassed.
I wish everyone a happy thought and feel a bit better knowing that we are in this together.

haleyan31
ctracy,

I am so glad that you reached out for help. And you're right, we are all in this together. It is totally, 100% okay to take time out of your commitments to get better. You're well-being should always be your first priority in life. If this means taking some time off of work (even though it might be scary), then that's what should be done. It is so hard to be taking care of multiple things at once while working towards recovery.

I am so happy that you want to seek professional help. This is a big step! I'm not sure what kind of help you are looking for but there are a ton of options. You can go to group sessions, out-patient, inpatient, or talk to a therapist. The link I'm sharing can help you find what is best for you: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-treatment. Simply put in where you live and what you are looking for and a ton of options will pop up.

Do you have a support system with your friends and family? I know it can be so hard for them as well to see somebody they love falling deeper and deeper into the disorder. If you would like to talk to somebody who is recovered, one-on-one, NEDA Navigators could greatly help you. The navigators are there to listen, give advice, and cheer you on. They are people from your area so you can simply email them or meet them in person: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/neda-navigators

I really hope that you reach out for the help that you need and want. Like I said before, you come before anything else! Take as much time as you need in order to get yourself to a better place. The last thing I wanted to share was some Stories of Hope. These are personal stories of people who have recovered from eating disorders. I hope that you find some strength after reading these! http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/stories-of-hope

Stay strong and know that you are 110% worth this recovery!

Haley

tracy2013
asking for help

Thanks for all the information. I have been in touch to potentially find a NEDA Navigator. I think meeting people with similar struggles would help.
The last five days have been good. I didn't binge or purge. That is in part due to the fact that I had a friend visiting me. I had a great time and I was also happy with the fact that I wasn't eating very much. I was thinking that this would be a good start to losing the weight that I have gained over the past month from beginning to binge and purge after a few months of being somewhat healthy. Anyway, after my friend left today, I started to feel worried that once i was alone, I'd binge. Thoughts went through my mind to engage in other things that might allow me to not binge. However, i gave in and had another binge and purge episode. I feel quite down on my self. I wasn't able to tell my friend the full details about my issues. I mentioned that I just get anxious and depressed but nothing to do with food. I also haven't mentioned anything to my mom yet. I did earlier this year but it really didn't fuel a positive relationship. We have a good relationship now that's why I hesitate telling her im struggling again. I was wondering if you had any suggestions about how best I could go about tell people who are close to me? I am also quite embarrassed because I have gained a bit of weight from my binging episodes and I find my face gets quite swollen after I purge. I feel like people will think Im gross and just eat too much and have to make myself sick..
Thanks again so much for your response earlier.

LegacyofLove
Asking for Help

Dear Tracy2013,

Haley provided you with amazing information, guidance and encouragement. She was spot on when she said you are 100% worth this recovery! There is HOPE, because YOU can do this and you are NOT alone! We are all here for you to support you through this process. You should not feel embarrassed - that's simply the eating disorder (ED) creating those negative thoughts and feelings. I know this personally, because I battled an ED and reocvered years ago. So, I understand the thoughts you're battling, but I'm also living proof that there's hope for a "full" recovery. Just be patient with yourself and know that it's normal to have setbacks during your recovery. Just take one day at a time, so it won't feel so overwhelming.

I'm glad you've reached out to the NEDA Navigators. I think you'll find them to be a huge source of support and strength. They've walked in your steps too, and won't judge. They'll provide supportive feedback and guidance through your recovery. I know you mentioned you're hesistant about sharing with your mom again that your currently struggling with an ED. Perhaps reading this link I'm posting below will provide you with a roadmap on how to share with your mom, and any other family and frriends.

Here are some things that may be helpful to you:
Sharing with others: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/sharing-eeease
Recovery and relapse prevention: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/recovery-and-relapse-prevention
Slips, lapses and relapses: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/slips-lapses-and-relapses
Positive body image: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/developing-and-maintaining-positi...

I would also encourage you to connect with a support group. You can check out this link below. Or, you can always reach out to the NEDA Helpline #1.800.931.2237 (Mon. - Thurs. 9am-9pm/Fri. 9am-5pm EST). They have all battled and recovered from an ED, and are incredibly compassionate, confidential and a wealth of information that you should rely upon. They are ready and waiting to help you.

Have you thought about connecting with a therapist that can provide you with personalized care and a recovery plan? The NEDA Helpline is great in helping to connect you with a therapist in your area. They can also provide you with excellent tools to help deal with the difficult times when the ED thoughts are overwhelming. I've found that when I have those negative thoughts that my ED creates, I immediately turn to activities that feel my mind, heart and soul in a positive way. I absolutely LOVE music, writing in my journal and drawing. So, I would encourage you to do whatever you find enjoyable during those challenging times.

Please keep us posted on how we can continue to support you. Remember, you're NOT alone! You can do this!

Healing Hugs!
Legacy of Love
Support groups: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/neda-support-groups