National Eating Disorders Association

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ckm1323
Girlfriend has Bulimia

My girlfriend has been dealing with anorexia and bulimia for over ten years now and she has been to treatment multiple times. But lately its been getting a lot worse and she won't talk to me about t. I'm very healthy and work out and I know the me working out triggers her. So I've stopped working out because of her but we are both foodies and I am really concerned about triggering her. Mostly because I know she purges every day know and I am very worried about her and don't know how to help. What could be triggers? Is there anyway we can eat out without triggering her? What can I do to help? I feel so helpless.

Mady1012
Hi ckm1323

I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend. I know how difficult it can be, EDs can be very difficult sometimes as everyone will have different triggers. I think that's wonderful of you to support your girlfriend and give up working out for her sake, she is lucky to have such great support. Maybe you can keep a little journal or some way to keep track of things you notice trigger your girlfriend? Have you talked to her about seeking help again? If you guys need resources I would highly recommend contacting the NEDA Helpline at 1-800-931-2237, and they can guide you to resources in your area and answer any other questions you may have. I hope things get better for you and your girlfriend. We are always here and happy to listen, I wish you the best and please let us know how you and your girlfriend are doing.

Adage
Thank you for sharing with us

Thank you for sharing with us ckm1323. EDs can certainly be difficult things do deal with. It takes a lot of strength to try to help someone with an ED. That being said, I'd be wary of sacrificing your own health as you try to help your girlfriend's. Does your girlfriend have a therapist? Therapy can be a useful tool when combating eating disorders. There are also therapists that specialize in eating disorders. Best of luck, and keep us up to date if you please. We're always here to lend an ear.