National Eating Disorders Association

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Tips and advice please

Hello, I’ve been with an Ed for 8 months now. How do I get to recovery? I honestly feel like I shouldn’t have all the problems I’m dealing and I should just suck it up. But at the same time I don’t want to lose anymore weight. I have a disease where I need to take medication daily and have to eat for it to work, and not eating will be very bad for my health and I’m scared. But I’m also so terrified of seeking help. I don’t know how to do it. Right now it’s hard for me to type all this. I’ve asked my mom (she doesn’t know about this) about a therapist and she said sure but I don’t know if I can do it. For the past week I’ve been going back and forth on wether I should try it or not. Also, any tips on trying to recover on your own? The past week I’ve been trying to gain a little bit of weight this week. If I did not have this disease I’d keep going to get skinnier. I’ve been trying so hard to eat more but I can’t. I’m just so scared of going out of control and get back to the weight I started this with. I can’t eat what I used to and I desperately need it. Please help.


Hi Joemama! Welcome to the forums, we are glad you are here. First given some of the information you provided, we are concerned for your safety. The following are just some of the signs of a serious problem that demands immediate medical attention: 

  •  accidentally or deliberately caused themselves a physical injury
  •  become suicidal
  • confused thinking and is not making any sense
  • delusions (false beliefs) or hallucinations (experiencing things that aren‟t there)
  • disoriented; doesn‟t know what day it is, where they are or who they are 
  • vomiting several times a day or has uncontrollable vomiting or diarrhea 
  • experiencing dizziness or fainting spells
  • too weak to walk or collapses
  • painful muscle spasms
  • complaining of chest pain or having trouble breathing
  • blood in their bowel movements, urine or vomit
  • a body mass index (BMI) of less than 16
  • an irregular heartbeat, and fast heartbeat, or very low heart beat (less than 50 beats per minute)
  • cold or clammy skin indicating a low body temperature or has a body temperature of less than 35 degrees Celsius/95 degrees Fahrenheit 
  • experience dizziness, nausea, fever
  • wounds/cuts heal slowly
  • feel tingling in the hands or feet
  • blurred vision 

Seek medical help soon on an outpatient basis if you: 

  • have significant heartburn and/or a burning sensation after eating 
  • have other gastrointestinal concerns 
  • have high blood pressure 
  • struggle with significant joint or muscle pain 
  • have difficulty sleeping (falling and/or remaining asleep) 
  • struggle with fatigue, sudden weight gain, and/or hair loss 
  • have frequent urination or unquenchable thirst 
  • have gained and lost significant weight repeatedly 
  • have gained significant weight in a short period of time 
  • struggle with chronic diarrhea or constipation 

If you have experienced any of these symptoms, we recommend seeking immediate medical attention. You also mentioned being interested in seeking help from a therapist, and our NEDA Helpline could be of help to find that any many other ED support resources you may find helpful at this time, including free or low cost options. The Information and Treatment Option Helpline number is 800-931-2237 or there is a chat function on this website to discuss support options. Helpline phone hours are Monday-Thursday 11am-9pm ET, Friday 11am-5pm ET. Helpline chat hours are Monday-Thursday 9am-9pm ET, Friday 9am-5pm ET. We wish you the best, and again, welcome!

Doesn't work that way

unfortunately, you need professional help if you want to recover. Nothing will change without help. That's the best place to get advice. You can chat with neda for resources. We cannot diagnose you or give professional advice on this site.

Hi Joemama,

Welcome to the forum! I am sorry to hear you are struggling with an eating disorder. However, I want you to know that with some time, dedication and effort, you can get better.

I think you already started with your recovery process.

1. You already recognized that you have a problem
2. You are willing to eat more (even if you can't).
3. You asked your mom to get you a therapist

You have been doing the right thing. So, keep going with this and ensure that your mom gets you that therapy appointment.

It is easier to recover if you get some professional help. Believe me, it is not going to be easy. It will take some time. But perseverance and willingness will take you there.

You deserve a life of joy!