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Smurlene
feeling strong, but facing a wedding...with cake

This coming Saturday I am going to a wedding. I will be given a piece of wedding cake. Cake is a trigger. I have considered just pushing it around on my plate, but I am afraid that once I see and smell it, I will crumble. Any thoughts?

nanzhu
facing triggers

Smurlene,
It's great that you recognize that cake is a trigger for you and you're planning ahead in anticipation of the wedding. This is an important step! Remember to stay confident. You ARE strong and going in with both confidence and a realistic viewpoint is crucial. Try to surround yourself with people who you can talk about this with so you have a support system around you when the cake comes out or you're starting to feel uncomfortable. That way, they are aware of your trigger too and can help you through anything that it might bring up. Don't forget that weddings have a lot of other things going on too that you can try to stay busy with! Chatting with people, busting out moves on the dance floor, taking pictures, signing the guestbook, etc. are all things you can try to build your experience around. Recovering from an ED is never easy and pushing away thoughts of food is never as simple as it sounds, but you can do it!

The NEDA Helpline is another great resource open to you if you feel like you need to talk to someone: #1.800.931.2237 (M-F/9:00am - 5:00pm EST).

Here's another article that might be helpful - it's about surviving the holidays, but might have some helpful tips since holidays and weddings are both celebratory events that surround us with copious amounts of food: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/twelve-ideas-help-people-eating-d...

You can do this!! I hope you have fun at the wedding!!
-Nan

Smurlene
thank you!

Thank you so much! I think I got this! I am ready to go and enjoy myself and leave that cake on the plate!

Smurlene
I did it!

I went to the wedding. I ate too many calories, but I did not eat any of my trigger foods, not one tiny bite!

I am calling this a win!

eghall
I agree!

I am so proud of you!!! A hard part of recovery is getting through hard and triggering situations. You did it and you should be proud!! You are so right that your night was a win! You are an inspiration to many. Not only because you successfully made it through a hard night, but because you call it a win. That attitude will get you so far in recovery! Way to go!

nanzhu
Most definitely a win!

So proud of you Smurlene!! You went into the situation prepared and with a great attitude - keep on going! You're a rock star.

Smurlene
Feeling good!

Thank you!

What this situation has taught me is that nothing is more important to me than my recovery. Nothing. Not cake, that's for sure!!

eghall
What a revelation!

What a great and truthful realization to have! Thoughts like that show how much stronger than your ED that you are. I am so happy and proud of you! You are on your way to an ED free life and I can tell you from experience, it is wonderful. Keep up the positivity and great work!!

Smurlene
I am starting to believe that a cure is possible...

....and that makes me more motivated than anything on Earth!

Thanks for your support.