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Melissaah
feeling down

I'm feeling like I'm not wanted, and it's kind of hurtful. I never mean to trigger people. I'm honestly just writing what I'm going through or what's bugging me or how ED is controlling my thoughts and actions. So now I'm feeling like a pos. I never want my posts to stop people from coming here. I know other people post like I do and nothing is said. This is why I'm so confused and sad. I hope what ever I said didn't make people not want me here. If that's the case just tell me and I'll be gone.

Brody803
what are you talking about??

what are you talking about?? I must have missed something! I enjoy your posts and find comfort that we are dealing with very similar issues....................... I hope all is ok...!

Melissaah
I erased the post Brody.

I erased the post Brody. Figured I didn't want to upset anyone else. But thanks for saying that because I was thinking of leaving the forums because of what happened. Apparently all my posts are triggering.

kelsey207
We want you here, Melissaah!

Please know that you are welcome here on the forums. We all want to hear from you. You are an active presence on the forums, and I'm sure there are many other forum users like Brody803 who appreciate your perspective and find comfort and solidarity in reading about your experiences. We want you here, and we want to hear what you have to say.

I know you wouldn't intentionally say something triggering. (I'd like to think nobody would!) ED triggers can be a bit fuzzy, as something that wouldn't bother one person may potentially be harmful for someone else. I think the NEDA moderators are just trying their best to make this a safe environment for a wide audience, but they're only human. I imagine that it must be a challenge to keep up with the number of posts on this forum while trying to enforce the policies. I'm sure no one intended to make you feel sad or unwelcome.

I sincerely hope that you continue posting on here. The forum should be a place for people to express themselves and share what they're going through. Please know that you are wanted and cared for. <3

Melissaah
Thank you Kelsey207 I've been

Thank you Kelsey207 I've been really down all day after I got the post that everything I write is triggering. I would never want to trigger anyone. It just hurt me and made me wonder if everyone felt that way and if I should even be here in the first place. So hearing people tell me they want me to keep posting is really helping me not feel so bad. So thank you

kelsey207
Melissaah,

Of course! I truly meant what I said: we want you to be here, and we want you to feel welcome.

You have just as much right to be here as anyone else, and your unique experience and perspective offers something valuable to this community. I'm so sorry to hear you were made to feel unwelcome. Even if something you posted could be considered triggering, I know it wasn't intentional. Sometimes when we're posting about what we're going through, our "inner monologue" can include things the ED is saying, which for some people is risky to read.

Whatever the case, please know that we want you to keep posting, especially if you feel it is helpful for you as part of your recovery journey. We are here for you, and we want you to use this forum as a resource for information and support. This forum is available to everyone 24/7, and I hope that everyone (including you!) feels welcome to post here whenever they want to. :)

If you'd like a little something to brighten up your day, I strongly recommend NEDA's Proud2BMe Instagram. Their feed has a ton of inspirational images and quotes: https://instagram.com/proud2bmeus/
Here are a few posts in particular that I think are great:

https://instagram.com/p/2BwF2zSToe/ "It's a beautiful day because of you."

https://instagram.com/p/60gAYtSTkB/ "You are good enough. You are capable. You are important. You are worthy. You are loved. And you are not alone."

https://instagram.com/p/41pMVhyTv9/ "There's something in you that the world needs."

:)

Melissaah
Thank you Kelsey207 I've been

Thank you Kelsey207 I've been really down all day after I got the post that everything I write is triggering. I would never want to trigger anyone. It just hurt me and made me wonder if everyone felt that way and if I should even be here in the first place. So hearing people tell me they want me to keep posting is really helping me not feel so bad. So thank you

Melissaah
Thank you Kelsey207 I've been

Thank you Kelsey207 I've been really down all day after I got the post that everything I write is triggering. I would never want to trigger anyone. It just hurt me and made me wonder if everyone felt that way and if I should even be here in the first place. So hearing people tell me they want me to keep posting is really helping me not feel so bad. So thank you

Melissaah
Thank you Kelsey207 I've been

Thank you Kelsey207 I've been really down all day after I got the post that everything I write is triggering. I would never want to trigger anyone. It just hurt me and made me wonder if everyone felt that way and if I should even be here in the first place. So hearing people tell me they want me to keep posting is really helping me not feel so bad. So thank you

Melissaah
Thank you Kelsey207 I've been

Thank you Kelsey207 I've been really down all day after I got the post that everything I write is triggering. I would never want to trigger anyone. It just hurt me and made me wonder if everyone felt that way and if I should even be here in the first place. So hearing people tell me they want me to keep posting is really helping me not feel so bad. So thank you

brookespre
I see you deleted that post

I see you deleted that post so no one could see what I actually said. I did not say everything you write is triggering. I feel that you have been writing some very triggering and negative posts, and I suggested you could try and be more positive so that others are not triggered. The one in particular that I made this comment on had a comment that was triggering to me. I was just suggesting that you try to be more positive and take the advice and help that has been offered to you on so many of your other posts.
I did NOT say you should leave the forum. I did NOT say that "everything you write is triggering". I offered some advice and just wanted to let you know that we are all in this together, and a positive attitude is what a lot of us come here to see. I hope that you will not delete this post as well as I am only trying to create a better attitude.

Melissaah
brookespre

First of all bookstore I only wrote how I read your comment. I'm sorry if I miss read it. Second I never mentioned who said the post. So no one actually knew who I was talking about. And finally I erased it not because I didn't want people to see it but because you said it was triggering so I deleted it to make sure no one else got triggered. I really hope that we can move past this. I apologize for triggering you in the first place. I don't want anyone to be pissed at me. I think what may have happened is that we both miss read each others posts. And maybe I'm wrong there to. Sometimes I can miss read something when I don't actually get hear the person say it. I honestly took your post back at me in a negative way. Anyway I'm really sorry and hope we can put this past us. I will work on how I post.

Melissaah
brookespre

First of all bookstore I only wrote how I read your comment. I'm sorry if I miss read it. Second I never mentioned who said the post. So no one actually knew who I was talking about. And finally I erased it not because I didn't want people to see it but because you said it was triggering so I deleted it to make sure no one else got triggered. I really hope that we can move past this. I apologize for triggering you in the first place. I don't want anyone to be pissed at me. I think what may have happened is that we both miss read each others posts. And maybe I'm wrong there to. Sometimes I can miss read something when I don't actually get hear the person say it. I honestly took your post back at me in a negative way. Anyway I'm really sorry and hope we can put this past us. I will work on how I post.

als2908
Melissaah and Brookspre - I

Melissaah and Brookspre - I saw your later post and I’m glad that you’ve both resolved the issue. I think it’s hard to understand the tone of a post sometimes so perhaps a comment can be taken out of context. As Kelsey said, everyone is welcome to post here regardless of much they are struggling or where they are in their recovery process or even if they don’t have an ED, but are looking for support for a loved one. And that’s the beauty of the forums - a safe place for people to come for support. The community guidelines state to “Be true to yourself and be respectful of others. You might not always agree with what other members have to say--and that’s okay. We’re all for discussion and debate, as long as you treat others the way you would want to be treated”. It is hard to remember that sharing significant details of a personal struggle such as disordered behaviors can be triggering to someone else. As a reminder to all, the forums list community guidelines to follow and now may be a good time for a refresher: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/community-guidelines
Looking forward to hearing more from everyone!

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