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Hi my daughter had her first admission to the hospital. She has been in hospital for 11 weeks and was discharged. her heart is bad pulse also. I went to hospital this morning and they said maybe let's try it at hm and discharged her. I'm in tears not joint what to do she refused lunch,all snacks and dinner I don't no what to do she has turned on me once again jam trying I have no support she's so so cold I'm scared she's going to die what should I do

Hi Kerry222, I can understand

Hi Kerry222, I can understand how scary this may be for you. I’m so glad to hear that you are supportive and care about your daughter’s well being. First, does your daughter see a regular physician or pediatrician who will be monitoring her physical/medical status? If not, I would highly recommend she get established with a physician for close monitoring. As you know, ED’s can have very serious medical complications. Some complications are medical emergencies such as passing out, too weak to walk, chest pain, trouble breathing, or irregular heartbeat. If your daughter is experiencing any of these symptoms currently, it is advisable to seek immediate medical attention either through her physician or an ER. Does she see a therapist who specialized in eating disorders or a dietician? It sounds like she needs a team in place who can help you navigate through the next steps - whether that be re-admission, partial hospitalization, residential therapy, or outpatient therapy. I am not a medical professional and so I can’t recommend the best option for your daughter, but I want you to know you don’t have to do this alone and there are professionals who can guide you. If you don’t know where to start, the NEDA Helpline can help you find medical professionals in your area. You can call them Monday-Thursday from 9:00 am - 9:00 pm and Friday from 9:00 am - 5:00 pm (EST) at 1-800-931-2237. I hope this is a start to helping you gather more information. Please continue to reach out!

Take care of yourself!

Hi Kerry222, I know your first priority right now is your daughter's health, until she is in a better place. And that's wonderful; she is blessed to have such a caring and compassionate parent as yourself. So it's crucial to get her a treatment team, but it's also important to hold your health and sanity as a priority, as well. You mentioned that you "have no support", and that concerns me, because there's so much stress involved with being the parent of a child with an eating disorder. While getting help for your daughter, consider finding a therapist for yourself (or involving yourself in the therapy process, like in family-based therapy).

Keep us updated as you support your daughter during these difficult times. <3
Anna Naomi