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So my best friend in the whole entire world has experienced ED in the past. She lost a lot of weight previously. Now, a few months later, she is up in weight slightly and her mindset is that she must get back to where she was before. Previously, she starved herself so bad that she landed in the hospital. She knows she does not want to go back there. She had been eating one meal a day and was aiming for two a day, but within the last week she developed the mindset that she needs to lose weight. Now in the mindset, she is throwing up anything she tries to eat -- even little things.

Both of us are really scared that she might land in the hospital again.

Does anyone have any advice for this situation? We are aware that there is professional help and whatnot, but also would like to hear from people on this site and what advice they can offer.

The advice we seek is in regards to how to get to a mindset where she is eating again and what foods to try eating. She wants to eat, she really does, but whenever she goes to eat, her mind is telling her not to eat it and that eating anything is gross and will make her look gross. I do my best to tell her otherwise, but, of course, it is hard.

Hi wolf5!

We are glad to hear that you're finding support here on the forums! However, your post was edited due to mentions of specific weight. Please feel free to review the community guidelines to help make this forum a safe place for all users:

Furthermore, please feel free to reach out to the NEDA Helpline for additional support. It can be reached at 1-800-931-2237 M-Th 9-9EST and F 9-5 EST.

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I'm sorry to hear that your

I'm sorry to hear that your friend is experiencing this struggle wolf25. Its good to hear that you've stepped up and are lending her your strength. You're proving yourself a true friend in my eyes and I for one respect that.

Unfortunately, I'm not health professional. Most people here on the forum aren't either.
Is your friend in touch with any? Her primary health care physician, a dietician, a therapist?
Its important for people in recovery to have a thick safety net of support in the form of friends (like you), family, and professionals.

Here's a few links that I found on the NEDA website that I thought you might find useful:

You can also call the NEDA helpline to talk to a trained volunteer. They might be able to help you out some, give you some tips/advice on how to help your friend: 1-800-931-2237

Hope that helps a bit

- Adage

Sorry to hear!

Hi wolf25!

Welcome to the NEDA online forum community! We are so glad that you have come here for some advice and support! I am very sorry to hear what your friend is currently going through right now. At the same time, it's so good to hear that your friend has someone like you to help her through a very tough time in her life right now. I definitely agree with what Adage previously stated. Have you tried any of the suggestions Adage posted previously?

Keep us updated if you can about how you and your friend are doing! I wish you the best of luck!


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Transfered my question into a new forum. I apologize Im new and not sure how to navigate through this yet