National Eating Disorders Association

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Not Eating/ Losing Weight

Hi, my name is Patrick and I am 36 years old. I am reaching out bc I am losing weight regularly and not eating well. I haven’t ate well in about two months. I was losing weight during the winter and my doctor did tests on me. They all came back fine and well. I was healthy. Since March, I have not ate well at all. I consume little during the day and at nighttime and that’s bad. I lose a few pounds a week estimated. I fear swallowing and eating due to an episode back in March when i did choke on some food. I fear if I when I eat now I’ll choke, have heartburn, be bloated, or excessively burp. All of these symptoms are true to a degree. My doctor doesn’t seem to want to help me after a few months ago. My family is unsure how to help me thru this crisis of mine. I’m unsure what to do next. I did reach out to a counselor for help that’s a start. I should call my doctor back but what to say something but what. They will be horrified of how I look. My family is horrified of my appearance as well. My weight loss is the cause. I’m at a crossroads. I care about my health and want to get better. I’m unemployed for the past few months as well. Life has been a challenge a well. It seems to be better to be stuck in old ways and not care. Feel free to message me back with any thoughts or feedback would be appreciated. Thanks, Patrick


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As you said, it's possible that this is connected with the choking episode that you had, rather than it being a medical condition. A person can find themselves being fearful that the same thing might happen again if they eat. If there are other things happening in your life right now that cause you to be anxious, those anxieties might attach themselves to you fear of choking as well.

Maybe you know how that can be - we worry that bad things might happen to us, and when we look around, sometimes we see that it's true! Look at how thin you have become, and how difficult it is to eat! So the thing that we want to avoid to try to stay safe (eating) ends up causing outcomes that only increase our anxiety instead. Kind of like a snake eating it's own tail, if you know what I mean ?

Sometimes our worries can go around in circles like that. Particularly if there are other things happening in our lives that cause us anxiety too.

So yes, I think you are being wise by reaching out to a counsellor. They may be able to help you with this, because it sounds like it's nothing that you are enjoying at all.



Hi Yorkhaven the same thing

Hi Yorkhaven the same thing is happening to me. I got sick this year in February I had a flair up of my IC to where it is hard to eat any foods without getting sick. I have ate but it is not healthy I do not know how to choose the right foods because I am scared of getting sick. The recalls of foods scare me the ingredients is bad for me because of covid 19. I wanted the doctor to help me but they say I am healthy. Now I am afraid of gaining back the weight it is battle.