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vetgirl1216
Support group says things unsupportive

Recently I have moved for a month to be on my own for a wonderful externship opportunity and I am far from my support group. The first week transitioning here has been very difficult without anybody to support me. While my support group claimed that they could help me from afar, the time I reached out to one of them left me feeling worse. I was simply trying to express how I've been having a hard time and talking about how it's so easy to sink back into my ED habits and they just turned around was like well this is your journey and you need to help yourself. Yes I agree, it is my journey and I want to get better and help myself. But that to me was inappropriate to say when I was just looking for support and someone to listen. Now I have a few more weeks left here and feel even more like I have zero support when before at least I always knew I could reach out. Now I don't feel like I can even reach out because the way I was talked to made me feel like I am just complaining.

Bun4curls
Can you find a support group

Can you find a support group near you now? If not, keep using the forums as support or chat with NEDA and get some online supports, I did that and the online communities have been my life saver!!!

lovetowrite81
Vetgirl

Hi Vetgirl-

It's good to hear from you! I'm sorry you have been having a difficult time transitioning to your new location-- it's definitely hard being away from our support system. That is very discouraging that your support group member responded that way. I could see how that would make you feel hesitant to reach out further. I want to echo the previous poster- are there any avenues for support where you're at for the next few weeks? And yes utilize this community as much as you need to ! We're here for you. Hope to hear from you soon about how you're doing <3

vetgirl1216
Unfortunately the resources

Unfortunately the resources where I'm at are limited and it is difficult to really establish anything since I am only here for a few weeks. But these few weeks feel like an eternity to me. I'm so grateful for this community because I can turn to it for the support I need. The biggest challenge has been being in a new place and out of my routine which caused me to engage in some ED behaviors the first week but this second week has been a little better. One of the hardest things has not been having scale which I was dependent on. I know this is a growing opportunity for me and part of my journey to recovery but it is definitely pushing me way out of my comfort zone and I go up and down with how I'm feeling.

Bun4curls
It may be best that you don’t

It may be best that you don’t have easy access to a scale. I know for me it causes me a lot of anxiety not to have unlimited access and I do fall back into behaviors not having it, but ultimately I know I would be a lot sicker if I was able to weigh myself every day/ any time I really wanted

lovetowrite81
Vetgirl

I could definitely see how the new environment and being out of your routine would trigger so many emotions and the urge to engage in behavior. It sounds like you are challenging yourself in positive ways though, in getting out of your comfort zone & away from the scale. Even if it's scary and uncomfortable, it does sound like you are growing and taking steps forward! I'm proud of you. I'm glad the second week has been better in terms of behaviors. Keep taking it day by day, you got this. Keep us posted & keep leaning on us for support <3