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hermione3
Told my roommate I am moving out did not go well

Told my roommate I am moving out she did not take it well at all she basically said I lied to her and was sketchy with my other roommate and what not. She said we are not friends anymore so it hurts. I reached out to my therapist and I said we had grown apart anyway if she never talks to me again oh well it's sad and I am hurt but she doesn't understand and she never will she is selfish and my old roommate feels bad I lost a friend I said it's not her fault my friend brought this on. My therapist thinks I have a good perspective and just enjoy my vacation but now it's going to be awkward until I move out...

justgina
roommate

Hi hermione3, I'm so sorry that talking to your friend didn't go as you expected. I apologize if you've shared this already - but did your roommates know about your recovery? I know how much losing a friend hurts, but something I've come to realize throughout my own recovery is that some friendships have remained and others have not, and that's okay. You are making changes and growing, and sometimes its hard for people to understand how difficult this process it is. It's nobody's fault, and if she cannot be the supportive friend you need, then maybe that's for the best! I agree with your therapist :) It may be awkward, but there's an end to it. Hang in there <3

justgina

hermione3
My friend/roommate knows

My friend/roommate knows about my eating disorder it does hurt losing a friend but we already have grown apart. We do not hang out and hardly speak except when I pass by her at the house it's going to be awkward until I move out but maybe it's for the best if she can't support me moving on she pulled her dad will have to sell the house and she will lose everything...I think she is being a bit dramatic but it's hard.

justgina
roommate

Well I think you're exactly right then, it probably is for the best. Losing a friend is never easy, of course. But during recovery, it's important to think about what is best for you and surround yourself with support. I'm sure she is just upset at the moment and, yes, likely being a bit dramatic because she isn't sure how to handle things. I have a feeling everything will calm down over time :) How are you doing this week?

justgina

hermione3
She was actually nice to me

She was actually nice to me the other day it was a bit odd but good I am struggling with laryngitis and took off from work yesterday but couldn't today and am having a rough day I am s daycare teacher so lack of voice is hard and the kids are being terrible I can't wait to go home... struggling to get back on my meal plan now that I am home from vacation since I feel I gained on vacation... I see my nutritionist Saturday so I will find out and had a phone session with my therapist the other day but it was more her as I lacked my voice...saw my regular doctor yesterday went over lab work it wasn't perfect but not anything to overly worry about. But I was so dehydrated she made me drink a drink there to make my heart rate come down... hopefully my voice will be better tomorrow because I have to work again...