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Ellienjapan
My 3 years old son hates food since the first moment I started to wean him.

I'm new here. Nice to meet all of you.
Hoping to find someone that can relate to my situation.
I have a 3 years old that hates food. Not a fussy eater. A child that refuses any kind of food.
I saw there was a problem between my son and food since I started to wean him at 5 months.
We tried a variety of fruits. He never accepted any.
He accepted pacifier and baby bottle for the days that he was in the incubator at the hospital (a week), then started to refuse them once I started to nurse him.
He Never accepted any formula so I was forced to exclusively breastfeed. I don't think I had ever much milk but no one knew how to help me. They told me not to give up and always keep on trying.
He Never liked those baby foods.
My son, as a baby never had any interest in putting any object or toys in his mouth, not even when he was teething.
He likes water. He can drink up to 1 liter per day.
Sometimes I feel he is drinking so much he is filling his stomach with it to feel full.
He uses water as an excuse not to eat.
For example while I try to feed him he starts to ask incessantly for water thinking that I will forget to offer him food.
If I refuse to give him more, useless to say, he will start a tantrum.
He likes to some liquids besides breastmilk but nothing else besides it.
All the little food or drinks have to be cold or room temperature. Never liked anything warm.
He never had, and still doesn't have interest in feeding himself. No interest in the food that I m eating and also doesn't care if other children around him are eating.
I tried to leave him hungry for over 8 hours, with the result that he will eat very little and then declare that he is full.
He wakes up in the morning, requests milk but then nothing else.
We tried to figure out if he liked more salty or sweet food, but he has no favorite food.
He hates having his mouth full.
So whenever I m lucky enough to be able to put some food in his mouth, I have to give him half a teaspoon full of food. He needs fo have his mouth empty in order to accept the next bite.
The only solid he accepts without hesitation are some soft vitamins I give him in the morning
He is hyper active, runs and makes activities all day but that does not increase his appetite.
I know toddlers have good days and bad days, but he always have bad days.
I m lucky if he has 1 decent twice a month.
The strange thing is that he poops twice a day. In the morning and in the evening if he is relaxed at home during the weekend, only once after I pick him up from daycare around 2 pm.
He is so skinny and his weight is not increasing. On the contrary, I feel he is losing some.
He seems hungry sometimes, but after chewing his food for so long he then gags.
We saw several dentists and he doesn't seem to have problems with his teeth.
He got a stomach X-ray and he is fine.
We got him urine, stool and blood tested and all his values are fine.
I'm at loss.
Anyone in a similar situation?
Thanks in advance for the patience in reading if all.
Ellie

BobJ48
Not eating.

If it's any consolation, apparently I was just like him when I was a child, and my mother was distressed just like you are. For the life of me I can't tell you why that was, but I certainly remember not liking to eat. As an adult, I had a low weight until I was about 40 years old. I don't think it had anything to do with mental heath issues, and even at that low weight I'm not sure that I was formally underweight. I was also very hyperactive like he is, and am still that way somewhat today.
I think I liked sour things ? So there may have been some things that I actually liked. But for some reason I didn't like the feeling of silverware on my lips ? Or the textures of certain foods ? Was I OK with drinking things through straws ? I may have been. Like your son, I think all my tests came back looking OK.
It was all very odd to be sure.

I think I liked sour things ? So there may have been some things that I actually liked. But for some reason I didn't like the feeling of silverware on my lips ? Or the textures of certain foods ? Was I OK with drinking things through straws ? I may have been. Like your son, I think all my tests came back looking OK.

It was all very odd to be sure.

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Dear BobJ48,  I just wanted to let you know that your post has been modified to take out any weight related numbers as they might be triggering to the rest of the forum members. Thank you for understanding and helping us create a safe forum environment. You can review all of our guidelines here: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/community-guidelines  Please keep posting!

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Dear Ellie,  welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out. I just wanted to let you know that your post has been modified to take out any food names as they might be triggering to the rest of the forum members. Thank you for understanding and helping us create a safe forum environment. You can review all of our guidelines here: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/community-guidelines  Please keep posting!

kallen2621
Your 3 year old

Your three year old may not be suffering from an eating disorder. He may have a sensory disorder or he could be on the spectrum. I suggest you go to the website for the board of applied behavior analyst to find a behavior analyst in your area. I also suggest you discuss autism and the spectrum with your pediatrician.I pray you find answers soon.