National Eating Disorders Association

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Runnergirl787
Advise

Hi,
I have posted once before and seemed pretty optimistic. These past couple of weeks have been very hard. I'm just sinking back into my regular habits. What do you all do to stay motivated to get better/ make improvements? How do you talk to people about what you are going through? I feel like talking would help but I so afraid to sound weak or like I'm just trying to look for attention. The one person I feel comfortable with is getting super frustrated with me because he thought I was doing better (which I was) but when I started to get worse again he thought I was lying about doing better.
I'm sorry for complaining and I know there are people who are worse off than I am, but I just want to know what other people do to stay motivated and how they approach others about their problem.

Mady1012
Don't feel sorry

Hi runnergirl787,

I am sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. Although, please don't feel sorry or the need to apologize. Your feelings and current situation is not your fault, and we are here and more than happy to listen and provide support. Have you considered talking to a therapist? If you don't currently have one, I would encourage you to contact the NEDA Helpline at 1-800-931-2237. Talking to someone can be difficult at first but it can definitely be very helpful.

Everyone is going to have different tactics and approaches since everyone is different. I think talking to someone and keeping your goals for recovery in mind can be helpful. Maybe keeping a journal and finding activities to do when you are feeling overwhelmed or having bad thoughts. Coloring, walking, meditating, etc. can all be helpful activities to keep you distracted from negative thoughts.

I hope you start feeling better and keep us updated on how you're doing :)

Mady

MarisaV11
Advise

Hi Runnergirl787,

I agree with Mady1012 when she says you should think about talking to a therapist. It is difficult at first, but I think it would benefit you to be able to talk to someone who may have a sense of what you're going through. Besides the person you now confide in, do you have any family you can talk to about your situation? If so, they can always visit the NEDA website or speak to someone on the hotline for resources in supporting you as well. I hope you find the support you are looking for, and keep us posted! :)

-Marisa

healthymindandbody
Talk About It

Hello Runnergirl,

I can totally relate to how you are feeling as I was doing very well but the OCD thinking came back strong this past week. I originally did not want to talk to anyone about it as I also felt ashamed. I kept it in all week and it got worse every day. Yesterday I asked a family member, who has been helping me through the ED, to listen while I vented about all the issues. This helped to reduce the anxiety and feelings of isolation so much. I've spoken to another family member and my dietitian today and feel the support is still there and and much better over all. Do you haves someone who you trust to talk about it with? Also keep posting on the forum, we all know this is so difficult to live with. We are here for one another on our quest to become well!

Thanks for sharing.

kelsey207
Hello!

I love everyone's comments here. I just want to chime in and recommend some resources on the NEDA site:

First is the Stories of Hope section of the site. These are the testimonials that birdie22 is talking about. Reading about others' stories can be very inspiring. http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/stories-of-hope

Second, I recently discovered this "self-care master post" on the NEDA site, and I love all the ideas listed here. Maybe you can find some ideas that work for you: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/blog/self-care-master-post

As for your friend, maybe you can refer them to some resources on the NEDA site so they can learn more about EDs. There are so many myths and misconceptions about EDs, so it can make it hard for people to understand what you're going through. The NEDA Parent Toolkit is a great starting point (it's not just for parents!): https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/parent-toolkit

The road to recovery is full of ups and downs. You don't have to apologize here. Remember that recovery is possible, and please keep us updated on how things are going!

Fighter89
Hang in there

Hi Runnergirl,

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. Try to be gentle on yourself- recovery is never a straight line! Although that would be really nice!!! I've found my friends and family very hard to talk openly with. They feel obligated to be the food police, or, as you mentioned, get confused by the ups and downs. Is therapy a viable option for you? If so, that might be a big help. Best of luck!