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Advice please

Thank you for reading this post. I am currently suffering from the eating disorder of anorexia. I also deal with depression, anxiety, over exercising, and bad body image. I have been involved in an intensive outpatient program for about 5 weeks now. I also see a therapist, dietitian, and psychiatrist. The first 2 weeks of being involved in the outpatient program, I was extremely motivated. Now, it is a lot harder for me to stay on track, especially with my meal plan (getting all my numbers of fruits, starches, etc. and skipping). My mom also suffers from an eating disorder. (Background: She has since she was 18 off and on, being in inpatient when I was in 8th and 10th grade.) Her behaviors are very triggering for me. When they are triggering, I get angry because I am being pushed to recover and she is not. I want to be healthy, but I also want my mom to get help. I try bringing it up, but she denies it all. I feel that some of my motivation is lost because of being in an environment around my mom. I don't know how to stay motivated and not let her behaviors get to me.

Don't give up!


I know the double-standard of sorts seems unfair, but as you get help and recover, you could essentially motivate your mother to recover for good when she sees how much freer you are and how you can permanently enjoy life instead of suffer through it. Don't give up on all your hard work! You are a survivor! Being in triggering situations is very difficult. Can you walk away from those situations? Maybe ask her to join you in a therapy session? Are you talking this out with a therapist?

You are on the path to recovery and I really hope you can stay strong against the difficulties and temptation to give up. Recovery is a series of ups and downs, and if you can get through these, you will see your own strength in a whole new light.

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