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medunn
Adult daughter's relapse

Hi, My daughter was diagnosed and treated for anorexia over ten years ago when she was 18. She has lived a healthy life for the past ten+ years. She is now 33 and living 1,000 miles away. She is an independent and successful adult who has relapsed. This is her first relapse since her initial treatment when she was in her late teens. We noticed signs when she came home for Christmas. We've tried to bring up our concern for her but she got very angry and defensive. We clearly need to talk to her but are fearful of her shutting us out/blocking us. We've offered to visit but she says she's too busy with work. Any suggestions out there on how to handle this necessary but delicate situation with an adult child? Thank you so very much.

Adage
Hi medunn.

Hi medunn.
Thanks for sharing with us.
I'm sorry to hear that your daughter has relapsed, especially after experiencing such a long period of recovery.
It sounds like its really affecting her considering how standoffish she is when you've tried to talk about it.
I would like to say that I really respect that you still have that real drive to help your daughter out even after all of these years and the fact that she's grown into her own woman.

I found some links on the NEDA website that I think might be relevant.
Give them a look see if you please:
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/family-and-friends
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/what-should-i-say
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/slips-lapses-and-relapses

Hope that helps a bit

- Adage

blueeyez
Adult daughter's relapse

Medunn,
I am new to this site and was wondering how everything has turned out. I have a 28-year old that has had a significant relapsed due to some big changes in her life-- though I think she had some smaller relapses all along since her early treatment at 15 years old. What was the outcome and what have you learned that may help me or other with adult children with ED?

blueeyez
Adult daughter's relapse

I welcome anyone's advice on this subject, even a book that helped you and everyone experiencing this as a parent of an adult child with ED.

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blueeyez

You might be able to more of a response if you make your own thread.

DSTEELE14
Hello medunn.

Hello medunn.

I had several relapses as an adult. Various things act as triggers and you are into old ED behavior before you realize it.
If she is turning away your visits right now maybe there’s another friend she would see? Perhaps that would open the door to intervention such as a support group in her area.

You are doing the right thing by reaching out here.