Parents

What Our Children’s Eating Disorders Meant for Our Parenting

By: 
Nancy Hemendinger, The Parent, Family & Friends Network (PFN) Steering Committee

For many years, the reality we lived in was one of fear; fear that ED would take the lives of our daughters. Would they be alive at Christmas or their next birthdays? As morose as that sounds, that is the reality of being parents or family members of someone with an eating disorder. We were at battle with ED and every day that they were still on this earth, we had the opportunity to find a way through the fog ED created.

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A Father’s Guide to Getting Rid of Ed

By: 
Lance Kissinger

Ed came along like a boyfriend you hoped your daughter would never bring home. I had been waiting for the day I would have to deal with this guy—I just hadn't realized he would come in the form of vapor, a cloud, something I couldn't reach out and injure. I expected flesh and blood.

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In Remembrance: Karyn Tendler’s Story

By: 
Bea and David Tendler

It was very difficult for our family to lose our daughter Karyn to an eating disorder in the prime of her life at the age of 46. We and she did everything in our power to save her, and in the end, by telling her story we would like the story to be one of hope and miracles.

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Catch It, Challenge It, Change It! Supporting My Daughter Through Eating Disorder Recovery

By: 
Lance Kissinger

Catch them, challenge them, change them. Get used to this phrase; it is the seed of hope that must be planted in both you and your child’s minds for ANY chance of long-term success.

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‘Parent Talk’: Tips on How to Parent a Child Struggling with an Eating Disorder

By: 
Lorri Benson, PFN Steering Committee

One of the things I found most difficult during my daughter’s struggle with an eating disorder was how to fulfill my role as a parent even when the experts’ advice ran completely counter to my instincts. I would feel like some of my daughter’s behavior demanded consequences, yet her therapist would tell me to let him handle it, and/or to remember that she was punishing herself in so many ways and didn’t need more punishment. I felt at odds letting her get away with behaviors that I wouldn’t let my other children do without consequences.

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Dear Lesley: How Can I Earn My Parents’ Trust Back After Struggling with an Eating Disorder?

Dr. Lesley Williams is a certified eating disorder specialist, family medicine physician and positive body image advocate. She co-owns Liberation Center, an eating disorder treatment facility, in Phoenix, Arizona. Dr. Williams is dedicated to ensuring that all women and men that struggle with eating and body image issues receive the help that they need to overcome and live happy, healthy lives. Dr. Williams regularly educates other healthcare professionals about the diversity and dangers of eating disorders.

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The Miracle of Macaroni (and corndogs)

By: 
Suzanne Oliver

As my college-aged daughter was landing on the tarmac after ED treatment away from home, I stood at the stove feeling apprehensive about the sour cream I was stirring into the chicken paprikash and the homemade macaroni and cheese that was baking in the oven.  My mind buzzed with all the concerns she could potentially raise, and I felt keenly aware of the return of mealtime anxiety.

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A Mother's Day Message

By: 
Chelsea Kronengold, MA, Program Coordinator

This Mother’s Day, we want to thank all the wonderful mothers (and mother figures) for their unconditional love and support when caring for a loved one with an eating disorder.

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Seeing Through ED’s Disguises

By: 
Suzanne Oliver

Early intervention. The phrase can sound like a negative judgment to a parent whose child has been in treatment for an eating disorder for multiple years. The mind returns to the time that the clues began appearing and wonders anxiously, “What if I had done x or y then? Would I have staved off the ED?  If I had been more vigilant, more protective, stood like a demon mother with a pitchfork outside my daughter’s bedroom door, would I have prevented the eating disorder from getting in?

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I’m at Risk for an Eating Disorder...Now What?

By: 
Lauren Smolar, Director of Helpline Services

I took the screening  and it told me I could be at risk for an eating disorder...what do I do now?

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